My main goal is to help people in dispute, usually divorce, reach resolution in less time, with less expenses, and with less emotional destruction. With the use of non-adversarial methods, produce long lasting and doable agreements that will enable them to feel better about themselves and the other disputant(s), maintain a viable parenting arrangement that respects the children’s situations, and to preserve their dignity in the process. The end result is to preserve their assets and normalize their life quickly so they can begin to heal and get-on with the rest of their lives.
Divorce is generally about 4 basic issues, who gets what, a parenting plan, spousal & child support, and emotional issues. None of these are really “legal issues”. Each divorce is unique, and there isn’t just one solution, and should be resolved around the specifics of each situation, whether they are worth millions or barely have 2 nickels to rub together. After over 30 years of divorce mediation, and 25 years of financial planning before, I’ve come to realize that there is not just one way to resolve their issues, not one good way or right way, but solutions specific to their unique situation, and to do so with a non-judgmental mediator in a non-adversarial environment.
By clearly “putting on the table” all the issues, the consequences of various options, and enabling each to better understand their options, do so in a neutral and non-adversarial way, each then becomes more comfortable with the situation, then are able to reach agreements that are more flexible over a long period of time.